Posted on October 24, 2019
What Makes a Survivor?
I had a hazard to interview Sandra Moore Bernsen in Quartzsite, Arizona, wherein she was website hosting an author signing event at Readers Oasis Books. Sandra wrote Free My Heart of Grief to Love-A Journey from Loss to Joy, a memoir of devastating loss and restoration Idaho Counselor.
Born in Minnesota, the financially harassed circle of relatives moved to Montana where she later located the “terrible boy” to whom she gave her coronary heart. The antithesis of Sandra, she and Rich married and ultimately moved to Idaho in which they mounted a life in their personal after welcoming their sons. Ray turned into their first born son. Patrick observed, however at 8 days antique went from being a glad, healthy boy to considered one of more than one and huge health troubles–forcing the circle of relatives for an prolonged time period to concentrate on acquiring his care in which they could and in the end losing him to the devastating infection that ravaged his little frame.
Ray had his very own problems, however borne of the eventual lack of his more youthful brother and that of his beloved German Shepherds, Sam and Alf, he became inward for solace and took it upon himself to garner the protection he felt he wished. The safety by accident became deadly one evening in the kitchen as he fixed himself a overdue-night time snack. Roused by way of the pointy record inside the kitchen, both parents determined their son had suffered a fatal head wound. Within 10 brief weeks of the lack of Ray, Sandra’s mom succumbed to her very own health problems.
Devastated, each parents grieved in their personal way till Rich changed into located to have contracted acute leukemia–one so rare his medical doctors had been at a loss to create the suitable remedy regime. Sandra took her husband home and over again confronted the emotional turmoil of laying to relaxation some other cherished one.
I requested how within the global she was capable of manage this and maintain on along with her life when she’d suffered what could have spelled the stop to maximum of us?
She responded that she had many friends and associates who, following the lack of her husband and of their quest to ease really her torment, had been themselves calmed and given peace with the aid of Sandra’s experiences and private counsel. Told more than once that she ought to write and publish a book of her enjoy, she became reminded of the journal she’d stored as a toddler.
The new journal stemmed from a “developing feel of being an orphan”, and she or he exact as many recollections as she may want to recall. Unfortunately, her mother had located and read the diary she’d stored throughout her adolescents which quashed her preference to further chronicle any occasions or record her genuine emotions on paper for some time. The catastrophic loss of all the loved ones in her adult global “compelled thought” and became cathartic.
I asked Sandra approximately the grief counselor she alluded to as being a saving grace.
She recalled the grief counselor as being “sent from God” and kept in near contact together with her during the instantaneous loss of Rich, knowing that the volume of the losses to which she were subjected many times led to the loss of life of the survivor.
How did Sandra start the exploration into the use of instinct and meditation?
Sandra turned into added to grief counseling books, texts, articles, and resources of suggestion, one of which became the e-book concerning lifestyles after death, “Talking to Heaven” by means of James Van Praagh. Not the primary time she turned into delivered to the concept of lifestyles in the spirit global as she felt strongly that Sam, their German Shepherd, shaking their mattress in death as he continually had in existence was a physical manifestation of the phenomenon.
I loved her parting words of information shared as we wrapped the interview: “Let pass of the matters that do not serve you–if it does not serve you–why do you drag it around?” Indeed!
Specifically asked to publish my grandfather’s manuscripts for ebook, I have chosen to provide his now antique (ancient fiction) manuscripts posthumously underneath his pen name, Stanley McShane. I have created a weblog referred to as RosePointPublishing.Com associated with this mission; to discover his international and to assist market and sell his works. Within the weblog are numerous book evaluations. Sandra’s life experiences led her to the observe of intuition and meditation, mastering the Berkeley Psychic Institute technique of clairvoyant reading and healing. She reveals energy in sharing her background with others and the impulsive counseling that spontaneously happens. Feel loose to contact her at